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1、www.XiYuS锡育软件Im going to tell you a little bit about my TEDxHouston Talk.我要跟大家讲一点 关于我的TEDx休斯敦演讲的事00:12I woke up the morning after I gave that Talk with the worstvulnerability hangover of my life.在演讲之后的那个早上我醒过来 带着我这辈子最糟糕的脆弱 的残余影响00:17And I actually didnt leave my house for about three days.并且我实际上足不出户
2、 差不多三天了00:26The first time I left was to meet a friend for lunch.第一次出门是去见个朋友一起吃午饭00:31And when I walked in,she was already at the table.当我进去的时候,她已经在餐桌上了00:35And I sat down,and she said,God,you look like hell.然后我坐下,然后她说:“天啊,你看起来真颓”00:37I said,Thanks.I feel really-Im not functioning.我说:“谢谢啊,我觉得-我都不转了。
3、“00:41And she said,Whats going on?然后她说:”什么情况？“00:46And I said,I just told 500 people that I became a researcherto avoid vulnerability.然后我说:”我刚刚告诉了 500个人,说我成为了一个 避免脆弱的研究者。00:48And that when being vulnerable emerged from my data,asabsolutely essential to whole-hearted living,而当我的数据表明 保持脆弱 是全心投入生活 所不可或
4、缺的基础时00:57I told these 500 people that I had a breakdown.我告诉这500个人 我崩溃了01:06I had a slide that said Breakdown.我放了张幻灯片写着崩溃01:10hangover:n.宿醉;残留物;遗物 functioning:n.运行,运作;计功能;机能;起酌(function的动名词)/v.运行,起作用(function的现在分词形式)vulnerable:adj.易受攻击的，易受的攻击；易受伤害的；有弱点的 essential to:对必不可少At what point did I think th
5、at was a good idea?我是搭了哪根弦会觉得这是个好点子呢？01:12(Laughter)And she said,I saw your Talk live-streamed.（笑声）然后她说:”我看了你演讲的现场视频了01:15It was not really you.那不太像你01:20It was a little different than what you usually do.跟你平常有点不一样01:22But it was great.不过真的很棒“01:24And I said,This cant happen.然后我说:我得阻止他们01:26YouTube,
6、theyre putting this thing on YouTube.YouTube,他们要把这个放到YouTube上去01:30And were going to be talking about 600,700 people.那就是600人、700人的事了01:32(Laughter)And she said,Well,I think its too late.（笑声）然后她说:“这样啊,我看恐怕来不及了”01:36And I said,Let me ask you something.01:43And she said,Yeah.01:45And I said,Do you reme
7、mber when we were in college andreally wild and kind of dumb?01:47And she said,Yeah.01:51And I said,Remember when wed leave a really badmessage on our ex-boyfriends answering machine?01:53Then wed have to break into his dorm room and then erasethe tape?01:57different than:不同于 erase:vt.抹去;擦除/vi.被擦去,被
8、抹掉(Laughter)And she goes,Uh.no.02:01(Laughter)So of course,the only thing I could think of to sayat that point was,Yeah,me neither.02:06That.me neither.02:13And Im thinking to myself,Brene,what are you doing?What are you doing?然后我对自己说:“布琳,你在干什么？你在干吗呢？”02:17Why did you bring this up?Have you lost you
9、r mind?为什么你会提这个？你昏了头了吗？02:22Your sisters would be perfect for this.02:25So I looked back up and she said,Are you really going to tryto break in and steal the video before they put it onYouTube?看我回过神来于是她说:02:29And I said,Im just thinking about it a little bit.02:40(Laughter)She said,Youre like the wo
10、rst vulnerability rolemodel ever.02:43TED演讲者：Bren Brown|布琳.布朗演讲标题：Bren Brown:Listening to shame|解读羞耻内容概要：Bren Brown studies vulnerability,courage,authenticity,and shame.羞耻感是一种不可言说的流行病，是许多支离破碎的行为背后的秘密。在早先关于脆弱的演讲得到病毒式的传播之后，布琳.布朗继续探寻当人们与羞耻感狭路相逢时会发生什么。言语间闪耀着她特有的幽默、人文关怀以及脆弱。(Laughter)And then I looked at
11、 her and I said something thatat the time felt a little dramatic,but ended up being moreprophetic than dramatic.02:49I said,If 500 turns into 1,000 or 2,000,my life is over.02:58(Laughter)I had no contingency plan for four million.03:08prophetic:adj.预言的,预示的;先知的 contingency:n.偶然性;安全意外事故;可能性;审计意外开支(La
12、ughter)And my life did end when that happened.03:13And maybe the hardest part about my life ending is that Ilearned something hard about myself,and that was that,asmuch as I would frustrated about not being able to get mywork out to the world,there was a part of me that wasworking very hard to engin
13、eer staying small,staying rightunder the radar.03:20But I want to talk about what Ive learned.03:45Theres two things that Ive learned in the last year.03:47The first is vulnerability is not weakness.03:51And that myth is profoundly dangerous.03:59Let me ask you honestly-and Ill give you this warning
14、,Imtrained as a therapist,so I can out-wait you uncomfortably-so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome-how many of you honestly,04:03when youre thinking about doing something vulnerable orsaying something vulnerable,think,God,vulnerabilitysweakness.This is weakness?04:17frustrated:
15、adj.失意的,挫败的;泄气的/v.挫败;阻挠(frustrate的过去式和过去分词形式)profoundly:adv.深刻地;深深地;极度地 therapist:n.临床医学家;治疗学家 uncomfortably:adv.不舒适地;不自在地;令人不快地 awesome:adj.令人敬畏的;使人畏惧的;可怕的;极好的How many of you think of vulnerability and weaknesssynonymously?04:23The majority of people.04:26Now let me ask you this question:This past
16、week at TED,howmany of you,when you saw vulnerability up here,thought itwas pure courage?04:28Vulnerability is not weakness.04:40www.XiYuS锡育软件I define vulnerability as emotional risk,exposure,uncertainty.04:43It fuels our daily lives.04:51And Ive come to the belief-this is my 12th year doing thisres
17、earch-that vulnerability is our most accuratemeasurement of courage-to be vulnerable,to let ourselvesbe seen,to be honest.04:53One of the weird things thats happened is,after the TEDexplosion,I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country-everyone from schools and parent meetings to Fortune 500
18、companies.05:10And so many of the calls went like this,Hey,Dr.Brown.Weloved your TEDTalk.05:23Wed like you to come in and speak.05:27synonymously:同义词的;同义的,含义相同的 uncertainty:n.不确定,不可靠Wed appreciate it if you wouldnt mention vulnerability orshame.05:29(Laughter)What would you like for me to talk about
19、?05:34Theres three big answers.05:41This is mostly,to be honest with you,from the businesssector:innovation,creativity and change.05:43So let me go on the record and say,vulnerability is thebirthplace of innovation,creativity and change.05:52(Applause)To create is to make something that has neverexi
20、sted before.06:01Theres nothing more vulnerable than that.06:15Adaptability to change is all about vulnerability.06:18The second thing,in addition to really finally understanding06:22The second thing,in addition to really finally understandingthe relationship between vulnerability and courage,thesec
21、ond thing I learned is this:We have to talk about shame.06:33And Im going to be really honest with you.06:38When I became a vulnerability researcher06:40innovation:n.创新,革新;新方法 birthplace:n.出生地/发源地 Adaptability:n.适应性;可变性;适合性 in addition to:除之外and that became the focus because of the TEDTalk-and Imnot
22、 kidding.06:44Ill give you an example.06:49About three months ago,I was in a sporting goods storebuying goggles and shin guards and all the things thatparents buy at the sporting goods store.06:51About from a hundred feet away,this is what I hear:Vulnerability TED!Vulnerability TED!06:58(Laughter)Im
23、 a fifth generation Texan.07:04Our family motto is Lock and load.07:14I am not a natural vulnerability researcher.07:17So Im like,just keep walking,shes on my six.07:22(Laughter)And then I hear,Vulnerability TED!07:26I turn around,I go,Hi.07:32Shes right here and she said,Youre the shame researcherw
24、ho had the breakdown.07:35(Laughter)At this point parents are,like,pulling theirchildren close.07:40sporting:adj.运动的;冒险性的;公正的;喜好运动的/v.娱乐;玩弄(sport的ing形式)goggles:n.安全护目镜;防护眼镜;瞪视(goggle的复数)/v.瞪大眼睛看;转动眼珠(goggle的三单形式)shin:n.胫骨/vt.爬;攀/vi.攀;快步走 motto:n.座右铭,格言;箴言turn around:转向反方向;(生意或经济)好转;船只留港Look away.07:
25、50And Im so worn out at this point in my life,I look at her andI actually say,It was a frickin spiritual awakening.07:54(Laughter)08:01(Applause)And she looks back and does this,I know.08:03And she said,We watched your TEDTalk in my book club.08:09Then we read your book and we renamed ourselves TheB
26、reakdown Babes.08:14And she said,Our tagline is:Were falling apart and it feelsfantastic.08:21(Laughter)You can only imagine what its like for me in afaculty meeting.08:27So when I became Vulnerability TED,like an action figure-like Ninja Barbie,but Im Vulnerability TED-08:37I thought,Im going to le
27、ave that shame stuff behind,because I spent six years studying shame before I reallystarted writing and talking about vulnerability.08:46worn:adj.疲倦的;用旧的/v.穿;磨损(wear的过去分词);佩戴 awakening:n.觉醒;唤醒;认识/adj.觉醒中的;正在产生的/v.唤醒;唤起(awaken的ing形式)renamed:改名 Babes:n.婴儿,小孩;女孩;天真幼稚的人 faculty:n.科，系；能力；全体教员Ninja:n.(受过偷
28、窃技术专门训练被雇作间谍或刺客的)日本武士/n.忍者 Barbie:n.户外烤肉(等于barbecue)And I thought,thank God,because shame is this horribletopic,no one wants to talk about it.08:55Its the best way to shut people down on an airplane.09:00What do you do?I study shame.Oh.09:02(Laughter)And I see you.09:04(Laughter)But in surviving thi
29、s last year,I was reminded of acardinal rule-not a research rule,but a moral imperativefrom my upbringing-youve got to dance with the onewho brung ya.09:08And I did not learn about vulnerability and courage andcreativity and innovation from studying vulnerability.09:31I learned about these things fr
30、om studying shame.09:39And so I want to walk you in to shame.09:43Jungian analysts call shame the swampland of the soul.09:47And were going to walk in.09:53And the purpose is not to walk in and construct a home andlive there.09:55cardinal:n.红衣主教;枢机主教;鲜红色;鸟类(北美)主红雀/adj.主要的,基本的;深红色的 upbringing:n.教养;养育
31、;抚育analysts:n.分析师;分析家;分化分析员(analyst的复数)swampland:n.沼泽地It is to put on some galoshes and walk through and find ourway around.09:59Heres why.10:08We heard the most compelling call ever to have aconversation in this country,and I think globally,aroundrace,right?10:12Yes?We heard that.10:21Yes?10:23Cann
32、ot have that conversation without shame,because youcannot talk about race without talking about privilege.10:25And when people start talking about privilege,they getparalyzed by shame.10:31We heard a brilliant simple solution to not killing people insurgery,which is have a checklist.10:36You cant fi
33、x that problem without addressing shame,because when they teach those folks how to suture,they alsoteach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful.10:42galoshes:n.胶套鞋 compelling:adj.引人注目的;强制的;激发兴趣的/v.强迫;以强力获得(compel的ing形式)paralyzed:adj.瘫痪的;麻痹的/v.使麻痹;使无力;使失去勇气(paralyze的过去分词)checklist:
34、n.清单;检查表;备忘录;目录册 suture:n.缝合;缝合处;缝合用的线/vt.缝合 stitch:n.针脚，线迹；一针/vt.缝，缝合/vi.缝，缝合 self-worth:n.自我价值;自尊;自负 all-powerful:adj.全能的And all-powerful folks dont need checklists.10:54And I had to write down the name of this TED Fellow so Ididnt mess it up here.10:59Myshkin Ingawale,I hope I did right by you.11
35、:03(Applause)I saw the TED Fellows my first day here.11:07And he got up and he explained how he was driven to createsome technology to help test for anemia because peoplewere dying unnecessarily.11:12And he said,I saw this need.11:20So you know what I did?I made it.11:22And everybody just burst into
36、 applause,and they were likeYes!11:24And he said,And it didnt work.11:27And then I made it 32 more times,and then it worked.11:30You know what the big secret about TED is?11:36I cant wait to tell people this.11:38checklists:n.清单(checklist的复数)write down:写下;减低帐面价值;把描写成 Fellows:n.研究员;伙伴们(fellow的复数形式)an
37、emia:n.贫血;贫血症 unnecessarily:adv.不必要地;多余地 burst into:闯入;情绪的突然发作I guess Im doing it right now.11:40(Laughter)This is like the failure conference.11:42No,it is.11:46(Applause)You know why this place is amazing?11:48Because very few people here are afraid to fail.11:54And no one who gets on the stage,so
38、 far that Ive seen,hasnot failed.11:58Ive failed miserably,many times.12:02I dont think the world understands that because of shame.12:05Theres a great quote that saved me this past year byTheodore Roosevelt.12:10A lot of people refer to it as the Man in the Arena quote.12:15And it goes like this:It
39、 is not the critic who counts.12:18It is not the man who sits and points out how the doer ofdeeds could have done things better and how he falls andstumbles.12:22conference:n.会议;讨论;协商;联盟;(正式)讨论会;工会,工党用语(每年的)大会/vi.举行或参加(系列)会议 on the stage:在舞台上;现阶段;当演员 miserably:adv.贫困地;可悲地;糟糕地;非常不幸地 quote:vt.报价;引述;举证
40、/vi.报价;引用;引证/n.引用Arena:n.舞台;竞技场 doer:n.实干家;行为者 stumbles:n.错误/v.蹒跚;结巴(stumble的第三人称单数)The credit goes to the man in the arena whose face is marredwith dust and blood and sweat.12:29But when hes in the arena,at best he wins,and at worst heloses,but when he fails,when he loses,he does so daringgreatly.1
41、2:37And thats what this conference,to me,is about.12:50Thats what life is about,about daring greatly,about being inthe arena.12:53When you walk up to that arena and you put your hand onthe door,and you think,Im going in and Im going to trythis,12:57shame is the gremlin who says,Uh,uh.13:02Youre not
42、good enough.13:06www.XiYuS锡育软件You never finished that MBA.Your wife left you.13:08I know your dad really wasnt in Luxembourg,he was in SingSing.13:11I know those things that happened to you growing up.13:17I know you dont think that youre pretty enough or smartenough or talented enough or powerful e
43、nough.13:20marred:adj.被损毁的/v.损毁,损伤(mar的过去式)at worst:在最坏的情况下;作为最坏的可能性 daring:adj.大胆的,勇敢的/n.胆量,勇气/v.敢(dare的现在分词)hand on:转交;传递下去 gremlin:n.小精灵,小鬼;麻烦 MBA:abbr.工商管理学硕士(MasterofBusinessAdministration);海洋生物协会(MarineBiologicalAssociation);主要战区(MainBattleArea)I know your dad never paid attention,even when yo
44、u madeCFO.13:25Shame is that thing.13:29And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say,Im goingto do this,13:32we look up and the critic that we see pointing and laughing,99 percent of the time is who?13:39Shame drives two big tapes-never good enough13:49and,if you can talk it out of that one,who d
45、o you think youare?13:53The thing to understand about shame is its not guilt.13:59Shame is a focus on self,guilt is a focus on behavior.14:01Shame is I am bad.14:04Guilt is I did something bad.14:06How many of you,if you did something that was hurtful tome,would be willing to say,Im sorry.I made a m
46、istake?14:09How many of you would be willing to say that?14:15Guilt:Im sorry.I made a mistake.14:18Shame:Im sorry.I am a mistake.14:21Theres a huge difference between shame and guilt.14:25hurtful:adj.造成损害的And heres what you need to know.14:27Shame is highly,highly correlated with addiction,depressio
47、n,violence,aggression,bullying,suicide,eatingdisorders.14:29And heres what you even need to know more.14:39Guilt,inversely correlated with those things.14:41The ability to hold something weve done or failed to do upagainst who we want to be is incredibly adaptive.14:46Its uncomfortable,but its adapt
48、ive.14:53The other thing you need to know about shame is itsabsolutely organized by gender.14:59If shame washes over me and washes over Chris,its going tofeel the same.15:04Everyone sitting in here knows the warm wash of shame.15:10correlated:adj.有相互关系的/v.(使)相关联;(使)相互对照(correlate的过去分词)depression:n.沮
49、丧;洼地;不景气;忧愁bullying:n.恃强欺弱的行为/v.欺负(bully的现在分词)disorders:n.无秩序,混乱;小病(disorder的复数形式)/v.电子扰乱(disorder的单三形式)inversely:adv.相反地;倒转地 up against:面临 adaptive:adj.适应的,适合的 gender:n.性;性别;性交/vt.生(过去式gendered,过去分词gendered,现在分词gendering,第三人称单数genders,形容词genderless)washes:n.洗涤;洗涤废水;洗涤物Were pretty sure that the only
50、 people who dont experienceshame are people who have no capacity for connection orempathy.15:13Which means,yes,I have a little shame;no,Im a sociopath.15:19So I would opt for,yes,you have a little shame.15:23Shame feels the same for men and women,but its organizedby gender.15:29For women,the best ex